The starting situation is the same for many of us: Schools and child-care are closed down, and many can no longer go to work. Restaurants and most stores are shut, there are no events and no private dates.
And yet, the situation is different for every one of us. Those with an office job are now working from home and get to know new video-conferencing tools. Other types of work cannot be done remotely; so some people suddenly have a lot of free time. If you have kids, you are taking care of them at home and try to help home-school your children. Some have a whole lot of work to do, as small children and home office don’t go well together. Some spend their days home alon, while others are surrounded all day by the people who share their house. All of us miss many professional and personal meetings and fleeting encounters.
Daily routines no longer exist, common behaviour and old plans need to be checked against the new situation. Oftentimes, add to that worries about health and finances.
What is the situation like for you?
And how do you feel about it?
Why don’t you use the opportunity to get to know yourself better?
- What do I like about the new situation?
- Among all these changes, what is good for me?
- What do I really miss from the life I led until a few weeks ago?
- What stresses me?
- How do I spend my time?
- What is the focus of my thoughts?
- How do I deal with feelings of losing control?
Collect your findings. The current deeply changed situation is your “personal corona crisis”. It actually does not have to feel much like an awful crisis at all. A crisis is any extraordinary situation that disturbs your usual balance. Resilience describes the ability to flexibly react to unforeseen challenges and to adapt to them. Use the current crisis to get to know and to enhance your resilience.
Resilience: Take care of yourself.
When you are feeling good… you are well! This helps your immune system and is good for the people that interact with you. We are not talking here about becoming a better person. Rather, about treating yourself well.
So consider what you’ve found out about yourself. What should there be more of in your life? Where would less be good for you? And what is fine the way it is? Explore the different spheres of your life; your list might look something like this:
- Job: I would wish for less video conferenes; the flurry disturbs me. Maybe I could be more on the phone instead?
- Health: I could use some exercise; maybe I could bike more.
- Relationship: I need time for myself; going for walks by myself might help me gain privacy.
- Recreation: I read more books now; that is good for me, I want to keep that up.
Look at the spheres separately. There might be areas that hold great potential for providing you with energy. You might also see patterns: Something that you currently need particularly much or little of (privacy, closeness, exchange, creativity…).
When you have come up with ideas how to take care of yourself, choose the idea that is easiest to implement and try it. After all, you want to treat yourself and not invent new challenges.
In post-Corona life or in future crises you can think back to the insights regarding your resilience and consider whether similar changes might help you take good care of yourself.